All the Expectations of Myself as a Parent I can Fall Short Of
Hold on to what is good even if it is a handful of earth.
Hold on to what you believe even if it is a tree which stands by itself.
Hold on to what you must do even if it is a long way from here.
Hold on to life even when it is easier letting go.
Hold on to my hand even when I have gone away from you.
- Pueblo Blessing
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Thursday, Jul. 14, 2005 - 4:47 a.m.
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Fourth entry tonight.
Yes, I am giving my hand a little break: I get cramps from making too many final 4B pencil lines in a controlled manner.
Next up:Expectations of Myself as a Parent
Or things that if I don't succeed I will berate myself and feel somewhat of a failure. eek.
- I will be available and open
- I will be pleasant and welcoming
- I will not get angry and shout
- I will be patient and calm
- I will not get depressed and overwhelmed
- I will create a home the child will want to spend time in
- I will be affectionate and loving
- I will be open and easy to speak to and approach
- I will be able to keep the child engaged and entertained
- I will be able to make my expectations clear
- I will be able to be firm and consistent
- I will be able to discipline effectively
- I will be able to feed my child nutritional food
- I will be able to provide appropriate clothing
- I will be able to provide appropriate toys
- I will play with the child in manners the child enjoys
- I will spend time with the child
- I will be able to educate the child in personal care
- I will be able to educate the child about the world around us
- I will be able to educate the child in social interactions
- I will be a good role model for the child, personally and socially
- I will not make the child afraid of me
- I will not have unreasonable expectations
- I will be able to provide for the child financially
- I will be able to do things I learned growning up that I'd like to pass on: making cookies, bread, singing, reading
- I will provide a safe and comfortable home
- I will be able to provide for the child's educational needs: schooling, physiotherapy, other therapy as needs be
- I will be able to communicate effectively with the child
- I will be interested and engaged in the child's interests
- I will be attentive and open to the child's needs, esp when they differ from my own
- I will provide the child with stimulating learning experiences: hobbies, sports, games
- I will provide the child with a welcoming social milieu: friends, neighbors
- I will provide the child with a sense of loving and committed family
- I will be a sane person and keep my individuality
Well, that's all I can think of for now. Indubitably I will fall short in thousands of ways every day. Oooo the possibilities for guilt!
me
wenchie
Other three entries here:
What I expect of Myself
Fraidycats
Waterless
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