Friday, May. 20, 2005 - 1:13 a.m.
Cost of the War in Iraq
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New things I've learned.
Quebec DOES allow independent international adoptions. Incredibly Quebec considers ANY adoption outside its provincial borders, even from Ontario or the other provinces, to be INTERNATIONAL adoptions. So an adoption from Toronto, Chicago or Ukraine would be considered equivalents! yikes! It is a cool thing, in that if the Canadian agencies are having a bad reputation, I, the feisty independent broad I am, could go with an adoption facilitator recommended by someone in the States. The BAD thing is that facilitators in the Ukraine who normally do US adoptions wouldn't necessarily know the Canadian system, AND would probably be able to translate English/Russian but not French/Russian. hmmm.
But it does seem like a possibility.
I also read some studies that seem to indicate that despite tearing the kids from their culture and the environment they know as home, that they end up doing well, even into adolescence and university. That's a relief after the horror stories i have heard. Scroll down past the list of studies to the actual study summaries. They do say that racial discrimination ends up being an issue, if the children are a different race. That does NOT surprise me. yikes. Another reason to go with the Ukraine instead of China.
I just had a thought... maybe I could enlist my churchgoing but very openminded most wonderful aunt to go to the Ukraine with me. She is positive, down to earth, calm and has experience with all sorts of situations, including having an alcoholic husband and 8 kids. It is her hubby who was Ukranian, and their kids took Ukranian dancing. I am sure that my mother would not be physically up for such a trip, AND equally sure that it would be exhausting and lonely to go myself. AND I think she would be a super asset. Since she is divorced, she tends to take care of other people's houses while they are away, and thus gets to travel, and does volunteer work. I think she is about 65-70. In good shape and is one of my advocates in life. A wonderful woman (It is she whom I spoke to about their family of origin after my father's disastrous visit here).
Here is a difficult and heartbreaking video of an orphanage that has severely damaged children, especially older ones. The thing is I do not for one moment doubt that facilities for such kids are different here, or the kids are happier when they get dumped by their families at institutions.
I have also learned that a lot of the work done in orphanages in the Ukraine by North Americans tends to be faith-based charity work. People on the adopt from Ukraine list are all "God and Jesus see me through" and "I went over with my church as a mission". yikes.
OK, gotta get some work done. This adoption thing is totally eating up my attention. slurp slurp slurp!!
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Goodbye Michael. May your next life be kinder to you. - Thursday, Jun. 25, 2009
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