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Tuesday, Jul. 06, 2004 - 3:25 a.m.

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Venting is not Drama

Hello hello! I am just reading a survey reply to my dirtylaundry survey, and want to quote Cadwaladr's answer to this survey question:

15. Do you consider it "drama" if a friend talks about negative things beyond just mentioning it?

No. Usually, they are describing something that was drama; telling the story is just venting.

Jeesh jeesh jeesh. Well, that is it exactly, Miss "called the wench Drama-ridden". Ridden by Drama, means I am the horse to the drama, I am not the drama. Venting is not drama.

Yelling at someone from out of town telling them they are not welcome instead of bringing up the problem with the person who invited them is drama. Calling your girlfriend to say what happened, and leaving the space crying, spending a day avoiding the person, and then having a quiet talk to resolve it is not drama.

Standing someone up is drama. Going out to look in bookstores, crying alone, phoning some friends to say how you feel, writing an email and then breaking up, is not drama. Taking the time to explain why it wasn't ok is not drama.

Pulling rank to make someone stand someone else up for no reason is drama. Asking quietly, "what time will you bring her back" and then actually never even speaking to the person again is not drama.

Inviting someone and then screwing them around over and over them is drama. Continuing to go around with them only answering only "I'm doing ok for going through a bad breakup", still going to parties instead of breaking things or throwing things, or screaming and fighting, and trying to be ok, and finally hitching a ride with someone else is not drama.

Being sad or telling people what happened is not drama. It is reacting to or describing the drama I was an unwilling player in.

Funny thing is, that this group of people who has decided I am drama... they have all created weird drama situations. I mostly was quiet. Or I cried. Or went away and wrote in a diary. Or asked people their opinion of the situation. Or told what happened, which is venting. That may be annoying to the one who wishes that it never happened, and to their friends who are stuck in the position of dealing with the drama their friend has created... but it is not drama.


Anyways, thankyou to Cadwaladr for clearing that up in such a succinct manner.

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