Hold on to what is good even if it is a handful of earth.
Hold on to what you believe even if it is a tree which stands by itself.
Hold on to what you must do even if it is a long way from here.
Hold on to life even when it is easier letting go.
Hold on to my hand even when I have gone away from you.
- Pueblo Blessing
Thursday, Jul. 14, 2005 - 5:00 a.m.
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Wild Unspoken Expectations of a Mom to Be
And continuing in the same vein:
Expectations I have of a Child
yikes
yeah, these are if the kid goes well. hah.
Things that will stress me out if they don't go well:
- That they will call me mom, and see me as their mom
- That they will grow up and become independent
- That they will welcome affection from me
- That they will be affectionate towards me
- That they will seek me out if they are afraid, tired, hurt
- That they will not ruin my life (haha! No, it is true)
- They will be open to learning from me
- That they will learn to communicate with me
- That they be relatively successful at school
- That they can spend some time amusing themselves: playing, reading, drawing, listening to tv, music whatever
- That they can play with other children
- That I can take them to public spaces such as restaurants, parks, shopping
- That they don't hurt me
- That they don't hurt my pets
- That they don't hurt themselves
- That they will want to do things with me: making cookies, camping, reading books
- That they will be able to learn
- That they will be healthy other than childhood diseases, and correctable conditions
- That they will outlive me
- That they will want to live in my home
- That they like me for the most part
- That they respect me and will respond to discipline and requests
- That they will not destroy property
- That they will not get into trouble with the law
- That they are honest and truthful
- That they are upfront and not manipulative and conniving
- That we will have some fun
- That they will sleep through the night and allow me to sleep most of the time
- That they will include me in some or most of their interests: ie if they are into softball that they let me come to their softball games
- That they will learn to do normal things, if not on "time" then eventually, including eating, toilet training, walking, talking, interacting with others, reading, working
- That they don't overwhelm me and drive me insane (ie nervous breakdown, chronic depression needing meds)
Ok, that is all I can think for now.
It is late.
nite nite.
Other four entries tonight:
Expectations of Myself
Expectations of myself as Parent
Waterless and zucchinis
Fraidycats
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previous meanderings - future past
Goodbye Michael. May your next life be kinder to you. - Thursday, Jun. 25, 2009
Taking Care of Your Cows - Thursday, Jun. 25, 2009
Saint Joseph robs the cradle and eats spaghetti - Sunday, Jun. 14, 2009
sticky notes and broken irises - Friday, Jun. 12, 2009
The FOODCOMMANDER - Monday, Jun. 08, 2009
