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Saturday, Jul. 03, 2004 - 6:39 p.m.

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Poor Fatherless Children in Gay Marriages

Hullo. I got this over at Defektengel's.

Please look at it. It is an ad from the right wing conservatives against gay marriage:

Here is the text:

Text of ad: "Why Don't [Ohio] Senators DeWine and Voinovich Believe Every Child Needs a Mother and a Father?

"Unless the Senate passes the Federal Marriage Amendment, homosexual marriage could be coming to Ohio-and sooner than you think. Here's the bottom line: homosexual marriage intentionally creates fatherless families or motherless families. Think about it.

"Ohio's senators have said nice things about marriage. But so far they won't take the one step that will save it. They won't support the Federal Marriage Amendment. We thought you would like to know.

"Every child understands how important a mom and a dad are. Help make your senators as smart as a kid. Pick up the phone and tell their staffs you support the Federal Marriage Amendment, and they should too."

It is accompanied by the sad face of a little boy.

Hmmm. Let me see. The homosexuals I know who are married. Alison Bechdel, the cartoonist and her girlfriend. They have been together for like twelve years and have two cats I think. Oh, the fatherless children created by their marriage in Feb. And David Kelly and his boyfriend got married in Feb in San Fran as well. They have been together for 14 years I think. I don't even know if they have pets.

Michael Hendricks who has been fighting for gay marriage here for ages. They are in their sixties. No suddenly motherless children resulting from their gay marriage.

And my friend l'Ecrivaine. She and her wife have been together for like 6 years before they got married. The only difference with them getting married is that their doggies have married parents instead of "living in sin" parents, and the l'Ecrivaine and her wife now have legal rights and responsibilites towards each other. They can now visit each other in hospital and give consent for medical emergency procedures. L'Ecrivaine is now covered by her spouse's healthcare and dental plan.

Hmm. Lesbian parents I know. There is a lesbian mother's association here in Montreal. To my knowledge not a one of them is married. So I am not quite sure how letting lesbians marry will do anything but make their children legally have two parents instead of one legal parent and the other who has little more standing than a babysitter though they have called her "mom" since they were born.

I know many women who are single moms since their marriages or relationships with men broke up. Some of them are now with women. But not letting them marry the women is not going to make them go back with the fathers of their children.

No. I don't in any way see how santioning gay marriage is taking parents away from children. If gays have children, it is through careful planning that doesn't have anything to do with marriage. Or it is through previous relationships with the opposite sex which didn't work out. In that case, the child has the opposite sex parent just as much as any child of divorced parents.

And how does gays marrying have ANYTHING to do with the kid down the street having parents or not? If I get married to a man and have a child, and the government lets the gay male couple down the street who have been together for 10 years marry, HOW does that gay marriage ruin my marriage, or marriage in general, or the happiness of children?

Personally I think every child knows it is best to have a mom and a dad, so the government should make divorce illegal. It should make joining the army illegal if you are a parent. It should make overtime work for parents illegal, as well as any job that takes a parent away from the household more than one day a week. It should make having a child out of wedlock illegal. It should take children away from single mothers, or widows, widowers and divorced men, estranged spouses etc, and it should give them to deserving male/female couples who live together fulltime as parents.

Maybe they could even make it the law that you have to spend at least two hours quality time a day with your child. I do that with my dog, when i walk it, certainly children deserve that. Moms and dads. Per child. Yup. It will give something to do to all those people who have lost their jobs in the bad US economy. If you have four kids, that is 8 hours a day, cuz children know that spending time with your kids is important. So be as smart as a kid.

Boo to people who use small children in puppy-eyed poses to take away the right of consenting adults to commit to the adult of their choice in a partnership of love. Boo. (hehe, scary word!). But I do look forward to the similar ads that will change the constitution of the States to mandate the other things children know are important. I expect that it will mandate the end of parents in spaceships risking their lives, parents in Iraq getting blown up, parents in politics, only having time for their kids the day after the election.

End of rant. If you live in the USA, you only have til sometime in early July to make your voices known. Kids deserve to know that they can grow up to marry whomever they want when they're adults. Kids deserve to know that their gay parents can be there for them legally just as their friends' straight parents can. Kids deserve to know that their moms love each other. And all us adults deserve the choice.

Please go to this site and sign the petition against the constitutional ammendment and also speak up to your representatives. There are lots of links on the page. thanks. And thanks for pointing it out, defectengel!

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